So, I've come to notice a lot of foreign women have a harder time to finding Japanese guys for boyfriends. I myself-- only have had one, and it was a LDR (long distance relationship), it was short lived because he refuse to learn English. And when you're in a relationship with someone, it's something you both need to do. To meet half way. One person can't be more happier than another (not literally). So any-who-- let's get on with the interview! And all these questions were given to me from users on Interpals, a few I made up myself (1, 2, and 5)
**Please note that I fixed their grammar mistakes myself.
Welcome the interviewers! Takuya, Kaoru, and Shin! While Shin is still taking his interview (he is a slow typer), I'll soon update his fair share soon. ^^
Question 1: What do you look for when you date a girl? (Your type)
Takuya: "Okay, the most important thing is honesty and good faith. Of course, I like cute and beautiful girls! Haha, hair length doesn't matter, but I like her to be short and petite!"
Kaoru: "Her character and if she looks good or not,"
Me: "What do you mean, character? Like personality, or how pretty she is?"
-- "Her personality."
Question 2: What do you think about international dating?
Takuya: "I think it's good, if they can communicate with some language."
Me: "Hmm, I understand."
Kaoru: "Do you mean long distance relationships?"
Me: "No, like dating a foreign girl. What do you think about it? Good, bad, or... meh?"
-- "It's good. Like, who cares?"
Me: "I think it helps the world become more connected to each other."
-- "Yeah."
Question 3: Would you go out of your way to make her happy? Even if it means doing culturally different things?
Takuya: "Do you mean living in another country?"
Me: "Sorta, kinda like... leaving her notes in the morning. Something different, but cute. Something that will make her happy, or special."
-- "Sure I will."
Kaoru: "Hmm... [it] depends on what they are like. I think I will if I love her, because Japanese culture isn't as fun as western culture, (like parties) but if she knows our culture, I won't need to do another cultural thing because she'll find it (trying to do it) rude or something. But yeah I have to do it if I live in her country."
Me: "Interesting view point."
Question 4: Would you marry a foreigner?
Takuya: "Yes."
Me: "Is there anything you like about foreign ladies? Some Japanese guys dislike us because we are assertive. Or because of their families."
-- "Haha, yeah, Japanese girls are not assertive. But I like it, I like such a culture."
Kaoru: "Yeah sure. Because I like it, and because I just don't like Japanese girls."
Me: "It's all about preference."
Question 5: Some foreign girls like to cuddle, (Hug, hold hands, or lay on your lap) would you dislike that?
Takuya: "Nope, I don't dislike those things,"
Me: "So you're a touchy type of guy?"
-- "No, no, if she wants that, I do [too]."
Me: "That's very respectful and a nice way to meet in the middle. As long as she respects the Japanese culture."
-- "Thanks!"
Kaoru: "No I don't because it's cute. And I think I will be happy. What about you?"
Me: "Me? Um, I wouldn't mind it, but I'd be super shy about it? Haha, I've never really been in a relationship!"
-- "Haha, I don't know if I would be shy, but I like it!"
Question 6: Would you expect your girlfriend to eventually be a stay-at-home housewife?
Takuya: "Yes."
Me: "That means you will have to occasionally cook and clean."
-- "*Laughs* I will have to practice then!"
Me: "That also means you have to clean."
-- "Oh no, I can't clean!"
Me: "*laughs as well*"
Kaoru: "I don't know."
Me: "Like, do you expect them to always do the cooking and cleaning?"
-- "When I went to Australia and saw my friends father, he was cooking. And so I joined him and it was a lot of fun, I want to become like him."
Me: "I think it's nice as well, you married someone to be with them. And it's nice when you two cook together."
Takuya: "Ah so, *nervous laugh*, I don't speak English well so..."
Me: "I mean, something that sets you off, that upsets you. For example, they're loud?"
-- "Hmm *long pause* nothing?"
Me: "Nothing?"
-- "Nothing."
Kaoru: "Um... nothing!"
Me: "Takuya said the same thing! *laugh*"
-- "It's because I find white girls really beautiful."
Question 8: Would you be open with your emotions and honest if you dated a foreign girl? Or would that be uncomfortable?
Takuya: "Ah, I find that Japanese guys have a hard time talking to their girlfriend if English isn't their first language."
Me: "You can say it in Japanese?"
-- "True."
Kaoru: "Yes I will, because if I don't do that, she will be like, 'what is this guy thinking'? And she won't know about what I'm thinking about, and she'll be frustrated."
Me: "Words of wisdom!"
Question 9: What would you do if you were in a Long-Distance-Relationship?
Takuya: "Do you mean, if I would like or dislike a Long-Distance-Relationship?"
Me: "Yes."
-- "I don't like it because I can't meet my girlfriend."
Me: "But, what if you met her in person? But she had to return to her country, but she had plans on returning. What would you do?"
-- "Sure, as long as she'll return then."
Kaoru: "I'll talk to her every day, and give her birthday presents ."
Me: "That's so sweet. Ya'know, I was in a long distance relationship, but he never gave me birthday presents."
-- "Did he ever tell you he loved you?"
Me: "He said he liked me."
-- "That's because he liked you, not loved you."
Me: "I see, I see."
Question 10: If you were in a Long-Distance-Relationship, what are some guidelines/rules you and your girlfriend would have to follow?
Takuya: "Don't cheat,"
Me: "Anything else? For example, one couple I know of have a rule where after 10 pm, you can't see the other gender. Because... stuff happens after 10 pm. Haha."
-- "I agree with that rule, haha."
Kaoru: "Don't cheat on anyone. Because, I never know what she is doing in real life,"
Me: "Until you meet her again!"
-- "I think everyone has that rule, though... Don't cheat."
Me: "It's the one and only rule, really! A couple that I know had a rule where after 10 pm, you can't be with the opposite gender."
-- "Ooh, that's good!"
**Personally, I think skyping at least twice a day is a good day to maintain the relationship. And always trying to interact with the other person, let that be eating together over the call, watching a movie on Google Hang Out... stuff like that!
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That is the end of the interview! Thank you so much Takuya and Kaoru for putting up with those questions. xD As I said before, majority of the questions were given to me by the girls on Interpals, and I made up questions 1, 2 and 5.
ありがとうございます！
またね！ヾ(*´∀｀*)ﾉ
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